I’m divorced. And guess what? I’m a damn good dad. Maybe even one of the best. Does that make me sound crazy-cocky? Ha! I hope not. But still — I know who I am. Hell, I might even be one of the best dads who ever lived in the history of mankind! Who’s to say?!
The other day, I was looking at some comments on an article I had just written called You Can’t Stay Married for the Kids and was really blown away by something that hadn’t really occurred to me before. See, it seems there are people out there who honestly think that parents who divorce are almost always just plain wrong to do that.
And I realized that maybe that’s because it’s too rare that married and divorced parents openly talk about stuff. We don’t ask enough questions. And we don’t answer them.
That leads to assumptions. And tension. And finger-pointing.
I can understand on some level. I used to be married, and when I was, divorce seemed like the last thing I ever wanted to think about. It was probably what I considered to be my worst nightmare. I never envisioned I might be facing it some day.
But now that I’m divorced, there are some things I want to share with you. Some things you should keep in mind about us, all of us who are raising kids and happen to be divorced.